4 Steps to a Healthy Mind
Without a strong mind, your body will never be at optimal strength. And I don’t mean the kind of strength that can lift a 100 lb. dumbbell over your head. By strengthening our minds through personal growth, meditation, positive affirmations, etc. our bodies become strong as well. I can tell you this… if you come to me asking for help with becoming healthy you better come to me with a mindset that you can make a change, because if you don’t you will be in constant battle with your heart and mind. Beliefs are very strong. If you tell yourself that “working out is hard” or “it’s hard for me to lose weight” then I guarantee that working out WILL be hard and it WILL be hard for you to lose weight. The crazy thing is is that you created them so you can change them. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects, it finds.
The power of a positive mind is a gift we all have. Let me share my story.
I used to have this belief that I wasn’t a good trainer. My story I told myself was that I didn’t have enough education and I wasn’t smart enough. I also believed I wasn’t a “people person” and found it really hard for myself to connect and open up to people… (if know me now you would think that’s crazy). The truth of the matter was that I loved people! I wanted to make a difference but lacked the confidence in myself to do anything about it. Those beliefs in myself spurred from a series of events that happened in my life as I was growing up. I flunked first grade, wasn’t the popular girl in school, got laughed at as a cheer leader, didn’t get picked for prom queen, and was told by an ex-boyfriend that I’d never amount to anything. All adding to my lack of self-confidence. So as a result I grew up having this voice in the back of my head that would hold be back from really enjoying all that life had to offer.
So to get to the point… I can pretty much recall every event that lead me on a path to expand my conscious and that finally brings me to this moment now. Through that growth process I took a couple seminars, read books, learned to meditate and began a positive affirmation practice. With all of that under my belt do you know what I realized???
That allllll those so called beliefs I had about myself was all bull honky.
Yep… bull honky. None of those beliefs were true. I mean really, what was I thinking? But that’s just it, I wasn’t thinking. Life happened and I choose to respond to events as either good or bad. I made up a stories about myself and carried them with me as I grew up. Now seeing that it was all made up… I can change the way I think about myself. If you know me now you would have never guessed that at one point in my life I doubted myself in everything that I did. Everything.
Every morning that I am blessed with, I remind myself of all the things that I have to be grateful for and that I can do anything. I’m not saying that I don’t have moments of self doubt. That voice is still there wanting to say that I’m nothing… but now that I know it’s there I can simply dismiss it.
I do believe it takes a bit of practice but so does everything else. If you never have played golf before, you’re not going to be pro your first try. If want to change, if you want results, or you want to actually accomplish goals you set for yourself, take a look at what you’re thinking. What you tell yourself about yourself, about others, or situations. What are some things you could do to help you diminish those beliefs that hold you back in life? Here are 4 steps to expand your thinking:
1. Learn to Meditate. And when I say meditate (simple pleasure #94), I don’t mean you have to sit cross-legged on the floor and have the ability to wrap your legs around your head. Just sit anywhere and breathe, focus on your breathe and watch your thoughts as they arise. Look at your thoughts as if they were being projected on a movie screen and you are the observer, separate from them. You’ll see ones you like and ones you don’t like… either way, they only have meaning if you put meaning to them. “Thoughts become things – choose the good ones.”
2. Read a Book. Probably the easiest way to expand your mind and make it stronger. There are a million books out there. I’m not too into the foo-fooy ones. Here are a couple of my favorites: The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth – Eckhart Tolle, Zen Body Being – Peter Ralston, Anatomy of the Spirit – Caroline Myss, Peace in Every Step – Thich Nhat Hanh, and The Abounding River Log Book from Cafe Gratitude. I could go on for ages but we will keep it at that.
3. Attend a Seminar. I’ve only attended a couple different ones. I’ve taken a handful of courses through Landmark Education. Cafe Gratitude has some really awesome two day workshops. I haven’t participated in any yet but I hear Tony Robbins has some amazing seminars as well. Just do your research, make sure the seminar fits for what you are looking for. You could also attend a meditation retreat.
4. Positive Affirmations. I have a dozen of them, maybe more. For example, when I catch myself thinking that I’m not good enough or don’t have what it takes I quickly repeat to myself “I am good enough and can accomplish anything”. I repeat it at least 11 times. Once you begin to see what holds you back you create affirmations that propel you forward. Another example, let’s say that maybe you tell yourself “I’m too fat to lose weight/be healthy” what would be some positive affirmations that could move you away from that thought? How about “I am worthy of everything wonderful” or “I love and adore myself” or “I want love, health, and happiness for myself and others” – then BELIEVE it!!! Act it. Be it. Even on the days you are not feeling very “positive” (and trust me we have them, I know I do), just keep repeating them. It sets it into your brain.
Questions to ask yourself to find your beliefs: Write your answers down on a piece of paper. Don’t judge your answers. These should give you a good idea where your mind is at. Not all beliefs are bad, still list them. A belief is a belief, is a belief.
1. What do you believe about yourself? (example: “I’m funny”, “I’m lazy”, I am lovable”, “I’m fat” etc.)
2. What do you think is possible in your world? (example: “I can do anything I set my mind to”, “I can’t lose weight”.)
3. What do you feel about other peoples relationships to you? (example: “my family doesn’t support me”, “work colleagues don’t appreciate my efforts.”)
4. What belief patterns did you inherit from your family? (example: “you can’t be successful unless you stay at one job”, “you must get married/have kids by certain age”)
Once you have them down on paper take a look at them. Do any stand out as being ridiculous? Do you see any that can quickly be changed. Which ones will take more work? Next to each of your beliefs that could count as negative write down an affirmation that you could say to yourself that would help shift your mind into a more positive direction. Then take those affirmations with you where ever you go. Type them into your phone. Make a post-it note. Write them on your wrist (that was something I did and then just ended up getting “be love” tattooed on my wrist – you obviously don’t need to go that far but you get the point). Repeat them to yourself anytime you feel you need to. Or just to get a positive “boost”. Try it out and let me know how it goes…
Alright there you have it. A quick run through and how to expand your mind and to make it a healthy, happy mind. If you find you are left with questions feel free to email me at thewellnessdoer[at]hotmail[dot]com. Thanks for reading!!!