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A Man’s Perspective: It’s Not All About Boobs and Butt

A good friend of mine once said, “As you get older the physical becomes less and less important.” I could not agree more. Do not get me wrong, an attractive exterior is still something to be admired and it will still attract one’s attention, but it will not create a strong connection or an everlasting impression. It is the qualities that define someone that makes them truly sexy and entrancing. Everyone’s physical appearance is different and how they maintain that appearance is different. The physical lacks longevity, embrace who you are and be proud of it. Attractiveness will always be in the eye of the beholder. This is just one man’s opinion on what is attractive in a woman. I hope by sharing my perspective, it will encourage women to embrace their inner beauty and feel less obligated to meet society’s superficial expectations.

Sadly, “pop” culture often defines what is “sexy” or “in.” A women’s figure, just like the size of a cell phone, has changed back and forth as trends change. I mean look at the cell phone, first it was make it as small as possible, now it is make it as large as a computer. Another example would by men’s jeans; it was make them so baggy they could not fit around the waist, now it is all about skinny jeans. Trends are always going to go back and forth, so how do you keep up? Simple, do what makes you happiest. Attractive exteriors are facades; they can change or hide the truth. However, inner beauty will always remain the same.

A Man's Perspective: It's Not All About Boobs and Butt // The Wellness Doer

I am not saying exteriors do not matter all, I am not that enlightened. On the contrary, I think it is important to be attracted to a woman’s exterior, but for me it is what is inside that accentuates the exterior. Honestly, I do not care if a woman has the nicest tits, ass and face in the world; if she lacks a personality, or if she is entitled, rude or annoying, I will not find that person attractive. The physical is important, but it falls short if it is not complemented by a personality. I believe people, especially women, get caught up on their exteriors too much. I know this may sound crazy, but I do not think that most men put that much value into it. A really “hot” woman may get extra attention at a bar, or have more options for a one night stand, but if that “hot” woman is lacking in other areas most men will not find her attractive in the long run.

This is not all cases, but in my experience, women who strive to be skinny, with perfect exteriors at all costs usually have some kind of emotional insecurity that other women do not. I do not want hear that you look fat on a regular basis; I think you are beautiful and you should too. I do not want you to expect something because you are pretty; I want you to appreciate things that happen. These women with “hot” exteriors tend to put so much effort into keeping their pristine image and staying skinny that they usually lack elsewhere, like their humor, humility, or dance moves. Trust me, self-confidence is much sexier than physical appearance. I know society can be pretty superficial, but a man is never going to care about a little belly if you don’t.

The qualities I find most attractive in a woman are self-confidence and humility. These type of women know they are sexy and do not need a magazine, or someone, to tell them so. They will have a real meal with a man, they are not afraid to act foolish or get dirty, they are very thoughtful, and they will not cake the make-up on.

A Man's Perspective: It's Not All About Boobs and Butt // The Wellness Doer

It is important for me to know that we can go out dancing and she will not be afraid how she looks, or to act silly. I love when I can go share a California burrito with a woman. I know it is not the healthiest thing but it is fucking delicious, and sometimes it is good to splurge. It lets a man know that you are real. In addition, I do not want to take a woman to a fancy dinner if all she is going to get is a bowl full of lettuce. I am not talking about a salad, I am talking about getting a side salad without dressing, meat, cheese, fruit, nuts, etc.. How can I expect a woman to enjoy life, if she cannot even take time to enjoy her food? I want a woman to look healthy with beautiful curves and something I can grab on to. I do not want a woman to be afraid to be naked because she might not look her best, I want her to know she is sexy and that her beauty has me captivated.

At the end of the day, all people are beautiful and it is not the beautiful exterior that will set someone apart, it is the internal that will. The experiences that shape a person, a smile or laugh, a thoughtful gesture, a loving personality are all qualities that make a truly attractive person. Owning who you are in spite of all the people that might be looking at you, or judging you, that is what is sexy. We are all afraid of the same things, so embrace you weird, embrace your individuality, and soon everyone else will too. Boobs and butt.

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