Overcoming My Fears
This last week has presented me with situations that brought up a lot of old fears. Fears of being hurt, being lied too, and the big almighty fear that most of us have… NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH. Ugh… just typing those out makes me feel disgusting. And that is exactly what fear does… makes you feel like shit. Do you know what fear is? Fear is the emotion that is attached to something that you THINK will happen in the future – your fear is in what MIGHT happen or could happen. Maybe something happened in your past and you are fearful of it happening again… so what do we do? We makes assumptions, judgements about what is happening in the present moment and based on what we’ve already experienced we alter our choice.
I’m not talking about the kind of fear that we experience when you are at the edge of a plane you are about to jump out of, even then that’s more an adrenaline rush. I’m talking about the fear that holds us back from the things we want most in life. I may have said this before in a past post – but everything we want most is just out of our comfort zone.
The physical experience we have to fear is the same as to the physical experience we feel with excitement, the only difference is the thoughts that are attached to what is happening. I say these things and post them because I experience them too. This is one way I work through things and if somehow it makes a difference in just one persons life then it’s all worth it.
“When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life.
It means fear is no longer a dominant factor in what you do and no longer prevents you from taking action to initiate change. If uncertainty is unacceptable to you, it turns into fear. If it is perfectly acceptable, it turns into increased aliveness, alertness, and creativity.” – Eckhart Tolle
It takes faith, inner belief, loving yourself, and courage, to overcome your fears. Once you bring them to your attention, like I have with mine, you can take them on. I am doing just that. I don’t want to live a life filled with fear, regret, judgement, and selfishness… I want a life full of LOVE, peace, compassion, passion, and happiness. So in the end after writing this it cleared space in this little head of mine. Reminding myself that I am human, that’s it’s not wrong for me to have fears but that I CHOOSE to live out of LOVE, not fear.
You will always have fears, you just can’t let them get the best of you. Choose Happiness.